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The past is past for a reason, and no human is devoid of that. All of us have faced situations where we find ourselves stuck onto mistakes we committed in the past. Overthinking and analyzing how a different past would have ensured a different present leads to undue stress and worry, and distracts us from the tasks at hand. Here are some key points which one should keep in mind while overcoming the regrets:


1. Accept your mistakes

When we ruin something, we often look for ways to give the blame to someone else and come clean of any responsibility that might come on our shoulders. This only makes it heavier for us to carry it. The guilt is never overcome and we keep on circulating the thoughts within us, finding ways to dodge the questions. Acceptance will give you a sense of relief and you will be free from the anxiety of hiding your mistakes, being fully able to focus on your present and future. Once you are openly talking about what you had committed, the thoughts of others on the subject can’t pull you down.


2. Don’t dwell in punishment

Once we commit a mistake, we often try to make things better by punishing ourselves for it. If you failed to deliver a report on time and your company lost a big deal over it; working overtime to repay for it for weeks is not feasible. Another scenario is of a failed relationship where you know you started becoming toxic, but forcing yourself to stay out of love and deciding to never try again will only bring you more pain than the mistake itself. It is important to set boundaries where you know when to stop repenting and paying for a mistake and moving on to correct it. Punishment brings fear of mistakes, not the courage to correct them.


3. Correction, not repentance

Regretting about our actions that were not fruitful is unavoidable, but doing nothing to correct the mistakes and only regret is an absolutely wrong approach to overcome them. Repentance makes you think about the past and how you could have adopted a different course of action, but correcting a mistake will help you look at the possibilities you still have left. One mistake doesn't mark the end, but instead the beginning of a new perspective. Look beyond the failures and analyze what other ways you have now. The delayed report could be prepared in advance and in the best possible way in order to make the new client invest more.  This will give you more satisfaction than working overtime and thinking how this could be avoided if you had done that one report on time.


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4. New opportunities and possibilities

Not all mistakes can be corrected, but something can be learned from each of them. When a relationship breaks, you learn maturity and sense of responsibility, or you learn how communication could have saved it. But only reflection and learning is not enough if you force yourself to not attempt new tasks. Once you’ve learned your lesson, make yourself ready to explore the new possibilities and opportunities. Maybe the new relationship needs the things you’ve just learned. This is applicable to professionalism as well. If you failed to deliver your best in one job, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to switch your career path. Opt for a new job and apply life's teachings. Failures and successes will come and go, but the lessons you learned will remain.

Do not judge your failures in comparison to other’s successes. You do not know how many mistakes they had made before finally accomplishing the task. Without mistakes, there is no scope for improvement; and even God is not a perfectionist for he made humans. Do not be afraid to make mistakes and to accept them. These failures will one day become the stairs on which you’ll climb up to the heights of success.

PERFECTION is nothing, but repeated CORRECTION!


By - Malvika Kushwah


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